The Psychology of Winning

Denis Waitley

The 10 qualities of a winner 

Quality 1:  Positive Self-Expectancy

"Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win."

Basically what this quote means is that you should expect highly of yourself. You should push yourself to the limit, and feel positive about it. You should always push yourself to the limit because it will make you happy. In order to be a winner, you have to remain positive when you don't. You need to always be positive too through the tough times, always be humble. You need to be a CTR 24/7 person, and a positive person as well so something good will come to you naturally. One of the qualities of being a total winner is positive self-expectancy. Having that positive optimism in everything you do. Also having the thought of success in your mind. Never going into something and thinking that you are going to fail. Having the mindset that you will win no matter what it takes. Positive self-expectancy is also a self-fulfilling prophecy. This means that everything you do you have to make it your legacy. One way to implement this to my life is by always expecting to win. Also by having that drive to work hard to reach success. One person that comes to mind when talking about winning is Cristiano Ronaldo

Quality 2: Positive Self-Motivation

"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."

I agree with this quote by Denis Waitley because it is very true. Even in bad situations, you should try your best to keep a positive outlook. Make more regular encounters with positive and motivated people. This could be as simple as chatting with peers or a quick discussion with a friend who likes sharing recipes or ideas. Find the good in bad. When encountering obstacles, you want to be in the habit of finding what works to get over them. You should also start to take note of when your motivation is high and when it is low. You should find what motivates you and reward yourself. Positive self-motivation is important so you can stay on the right path and be successful in life. You should always stay positive and happy if you are a CTR person 24/7 and choose the Right. Another of one of the qualities of being a total winner is having positive self-motivation. People that have this trait are more likely to succeed because they have the motivation. Sometimes when I am not in the best mood I tend to keep it to myself and hurts my motivation. That's something I need to improve upon on. I have to dig deep to find my true motivation. Someone that I think has self-motivation is Kobe Bryant. He always wants the last shot.

Quality 3: Positive Self-Image

True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings.

 True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings. If you want to win at something, you have to seem confident you know what you're doing. If you project a positive self-image, people will see you as a capable, positive person. You need to be positive even through the tough times, when it may get hard. You must first believe you can do something before anyone else believes it. You have to replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts, to have a positive mindset. Having positive self-direction is a quality of being a total winner. By having a direction and knowing where you want to go. The direction comes from yourself not anyone else. No outside influences like friends that are trying to sway you in a different path. For example, friends can influence you in where you go to school. Maybe one is got accepted to a UC but does not accept it because they want to be with their friends at a CSU. One person that I see doing this is Kobe Bryant his direction was work hard to win a championship. This was his passion and that is why he won 5 NBA titles. I try to handle myself in that way. In a sense of not letting others around me tell me different. This keeps me mature because I am handling my own business. Being your own boss makes you more responsible and having self-direction allows you to mold your future.

Quality 4: Positive Self-Direction

You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. True winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends.

To me having self-direction is one of the most important qualities you can have. This is because it'll allow you to know what your goals are and where you want to be. Having this quality will make you a winner because you will not be wasting any time wondering what you want to achieve. An example of self-direction can be like having a goals journal. This exercises the quality of self-direction. Having this journal makes you think of your goals and what you want to achieve. Gives you a point of view of how you want your life to be. On the other hand, not having a goals journal results you in working for nothing to achieve. This results in time being wasted and energy towards achieving goals. This is what I think of this quality of winning and how you can use it to become a winner.

Quality 5: Positive Self-Control

Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goals.

Having positive self-control is a great quality because it shows that you are always calm and collective. Many people are not like that. They want things now and want the reward.  Self-control helps you in the future and not really the now part. For example, If an NBA team trades its superstar player because he couldn't win a championship. The team will decline a little but the team that he was traded to offer 2 first round unprotected picks. Obviously the team will lose more games but that means they will have a high pick because of the trade and with that pick let say they draft a superstar. Now they are in the same boat but with an extra pick. This gives the team to draft another superstar with their top pick. And let say again they hit on the pick and get a superstar. That means they have two superstars. This show self-control because they could of kept that lone superstar but they traded him for a chance of two superstars. They hit on both picks and now have a better chance of winning the championship in the upcoming years.

Quality 6: Positive Self-Discipline

You have to discipline yourself or else someone else will discipline you into doing what they want you to do. Total winners have the power to discipline and take control of their lives.

You need to be able to discipline yourself in a positive way. In order to take control of your life you need to discipline yourself or else another person will do it for you. You need to be able to control your feelings and overcome any weaknesses that you may have. There is many obstacles in life that you will have to face, and to face them you need patience and self-discipline. When you foster self-discipline within you, you will have a higher self-esteem and a higher self-confidence. Self-discipline is a skill/habit that will eventually become part of your lifestyle. You have to make an effort to stick to your decisions, even the simplest ones. Having Positive self-discipline is a great quality because it shows you can control yourself. You are a very calm and collected person nothing really phases you. You have to teach yourself or else someone will teach you. Winners in this society have the power to take control of their lives. I try to discipline myself to always be responsible. I do this by keeping myself accountable for any actions I have done. Someone that has self-discipline everyday are teachers. They have to deal with students all day.

Quality 7: Positive Self-Esteem

Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.

You should have a positive outlook when it comes to your self-esteem. If you want to attract good vibes, then you need to always remain calm and positive. The best thing about having a positive self-esteem is that you can be yourself. You can be happy by living on your own terms, each of us can gain a better understanding of what we want. Another good thing about having a high self-esteem is also that you can face new challenges. You will face these challenges enthusiastically, and want to come up with a creative solution.  If you choose the Right 24/7, you will have much more than a positive self-esteem. You will have a positive outlook on life that will make you a total winner. Having Positive self-esteem is great because you don’t get demoralized easily. Always having that feel good attitude. Positive self-esteem helps you with making new friends because everyone will want to around you. This gives you a vibe that makes everyone around feel good. Always having that feel good type of vibe on the outlook of the world. I try to stay positive and have the positive outlook of the world but sometimes I’m just not feeling it. I need to improve that aspect of my life. Having the good attitude on life never being down. One person that relates to this is Meta World Peace. He a very charismatic person ever since he has retired.  He always has a smile on his face no matter what. I want to be like him because he is a very likable person.

Quality 10: Positive Action

Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and others.

When being a winner, you have to take care the things or the people that will lead you to success. Family members and friends will always have your back and they will encourage you to do better in yourself and life. Total winners will always have self motivation to for from beyond because they want to achieve the success that no one else has. Total winners also uplift people who are in a bad place in their life and try and get them back to a health start. They uplift people from dark times and get through it so they could see the light. Total winners inspire people to do good and help be the best people they can be. They help people choose the right as much as possible and want them to do good. Being a positive action can be helpful in your community because you're doing something positive for your community.