Six Rules to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you.........
Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
- You can make more friends in two months by being interested in them, than in two years by making them interested in you. The only way to make quality, lasting friendships is to learn to be genuinely interested in them and their interests. If you act interested in someone they will for sure be interested into talking to you and from there you become friends. Always keep them interested in what you are you talking about. What I mean by that is that don't always talk about yourself and what you did that don't go over board with that. Ask Questions about them and ask them how they are or if they are alright.Studies show that the word that people say more than any other is ‘I”. People love to talk about themselves, their lives, their hobbies, their families, their passions, etc… When you become interested in people, ask questions and allow them to talk, they will love you for it.
Rule 2: Smile
-I totally, agree with this rule in improving your life and making people like you. If you smile, as the statement says. It shows people that you are genuinely interested in them as rule 1 told us to be. Smiling is contagious. So even if you aren't happy and someone smiles at you, you have to be pretty pessimistic to not smile back. And if you are happy and you smile at someone, then you can be pretty sure that they will smile back at you. it is critical that you are able to smile even when you don't feel like it if you want people to like you. You don't have to have a smile on your face all the time but make sure you're approachable. You may know someone who smiles all the time or a lot and chances are you enjoy seeing or talking to them. That is the impact of a smile. Which is why everyone should smile. I always try to be positive and simile all the time. When people see me smile they also want to smile. It's like a chain cycle if you smile they are more likely to smile.
Rule 3: Remember Names
- Make an effort to remember people’s names. Make it a skill you are developing. And then use it to your advantage by addressing people directly and throwing their names into the conversation. Remembering and using the name is also among the easiest ways to make people like you, but you will be amazed by the instant results.if someone remembers my name I think of oh he remembered my name, I guess he liked what I was talking about. Remembering names also makes you look more intelligent. If you remember their name they will obviously like you because you knew who they were and genuinely was paying attention. When we remember peoples name, it shows a sign of courtesy and a way of recognizing them. When a person remembers our name after meeting us, we feel respected and more important. It makes a positive and lasting impact on us. When we don't remember a name and people have to repeat is several timesit makes us feel a little unappreciated.
Rule4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- When you talk to others they always seem to talk about you and not themselves. Be still, look at the person warmly, ask a simple question, ("How are you?") will do. If you get a one word answer, keep quiet, keep warm and attentive and wait. The other person will say some more. 30 seconds of silence can feel like an hour to you. To the other person it's just a moment for her or him to gather thoughts. Most people are desperate to be listened to. All we need to do is give them a genuine opportunity to talk and be heard. Try to find common possible connections between you and your listener. Ask a provocative question which compels them to give more than just a 1-2 word answer. Keep them interested and they will for sure open and talk about themselves.
Rule 5:Talk in terms of the other man's interest
-Talking in terms of the other person’s interest is not that
hard. It just takes the willingness and patience to be a good listener and the
smarts to ask a few good questions. The willingness and patience are the
hardest things for most people for a few reasons. If you never talk about
others interest then later they become the same as you and just talk about
themselves. Having an ability like that will help in the long run. It will make
people want to talk to you, because you are very rational. When you about
others interest you can get ideas from others and make your own idea. This will
make a very successful person with a lot of knowledge.See
what others like and have a conversation about that. It shows manners and makes
you look intelligent because of the level of interest you have. I have another
theory that it means to be open minded. Being open minded helps you see things
in a different perspective.
Rule 2: Smile
-I totally, agree with this rule in improving your life and making people like you. If you smile, as the statement says. It shows people that you are genuinely interested in them as rule 1 told us to be. Smiling is contagious. So even if you aren't happy and someone smiles at you, you have to be pretty pessimistic to not smile back. And if you are happy and you smile at someone, then you can be pretty sure that they will smile back at you. it is critical that you are able to smile even when you don't feel like it if you want people to like you. You don't have to have a smile on your face all the time but make sure you're approachable. You may know someone who smiles all the time or a lot and chances are you enjoy seeing or talking to them. That is the impact of a smile. Which is why everyone should smile. I always try to be positive and simile all the time. When people see me smile they also want to smile. It's like a chain cycle if you smile they are more likely to smile.
Rule 3: Remember Names
- Make an effort to remember people’s names. Make it a skill you are developing. And then use it to your advantage by addressing people directly and throwing their names into the conversation. Remembering and using the name is also among the easiest ways to make people like you, but you will be amazed by the instant results.if someone remembers my name I think of oh he remembered my name, I guess he liked what I was talking about. Remembering names also makes you look more intelligent. If you remember their name they will obviously like you because you knew who they were and genuinely was paying attention. When we remember peoples name, it shows a sign of courtesy and a way of recognizing them. When a person remembers our name after meeting us, we feel respected and more important. It makes a positive and lasting impact on us. When we don't remember a name and people have to repeat is several timesit makes us feel a little unappreciated.
Rule4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- When you talk to others they always seem to talk about you and not themselves. Be still, look at the person warmly, ask a simple question, ("How are you?") will do. If you get a one word answer, keep quiet, keep warm and attentive and wait. The other person will say some more. 30 seconds of silence can feel like an hour to you. To the other person it's just a moment for her or him to gather thoughts. Most people are desperate to be listened to. All we need to do is give them a genuine opportunity to talk and be heard. Try to find common possible connections between you and your listener. Ask a provocative question which compels them to give more than just a 1-2 word answer. Keep them interested and they will for sure open and talk about themselves.
Rule 5:Talk in terms of the other man's interest
-Talking in terms of the other person’s interest is not that
hard. It just takes the willingness and patience to be a good listener and the
smarts to ask a few good questions. The willingness and patience are the
hardest things for most people for a few reasons. If you never talk about
others interest then later they become the same as you and just talk about
themselves. Having an ability like that will help in the long run. It will make
people want to talk to you, because you are very rational. When you about
others interest you can get ideas from others and make your own idea. This will
make a very successful person with a lot of knowledge.See
what others like and have a conversation about that. It shows manners and makes
you look intelligent because of the level of interest you have. I have another
theory that it means to be open minded. Being open minded helps you see things
in a different perspective.
Rule 6:Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
REFLECTION: Overall these six ways on how you can get people to like you more is cool and all but I personally wouldn't use this at all. If I want people to like I want to them to like me for who am I. I don't want to be all extra just so one person can like me for pretending to be interested in them. People will like other people for who they are, pretending to like them will obviously catch on and at the end it won't end well.
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